I’ve talked about how sucky it is to be unemployed. It’s not fun when you want to do things, but you can’t because your bank account is lacking. But what happens when you finally get a job and you hate it so much that those job searching days are starting to look like bae? Right now, I am working a temporary job in order to reach my goals and it is STRESSFUL. It has lead me to wonder what it’s like to be in the shoes of others who have dedicated 5 years or more to a job that they hate. Being at a job I hate for even a short period of time has caused me to get acquainted with many negative emotions. I’ve come to the conclusion that having a job that’s not the right fit for you can effect a large portion of your life outside of work.
I have learned that having a job that you hate can cause your worst self to show up and show out. I’ve seen a very nice, cheerful person turn into one ready to pop off even if you breath in their direction. It can arise from some many things: unprofessionalism, rude customers, negative coworkers and just simply not doing what you love or even like to do. What we intake on a daily basis matters and being in a negative environment for several hours throughout the day has an effect. What makes matters even worst is that the behavior transcends into personal lives and causes issues there as well.
Stress is usually the core of why people have a nasty attitude on the job. I have been experienced stress from work the most due to unprofessionalism like having to chase down mangers for my paycheck and not knowing my schedule in advance (*eye rolls*). From a health standpoint stress can be horrendous on your daily life. You can definitely lose sleep over a job you hate when your mind is busy playing your to do list. Have you ever laid in bed trying to fall asleep and all you are thinking is how you are already ready to come home tomorrow? It can also be an excuse to indulge in bad habits such as smoking or stress eating. Stress can also rob you of your cuteness by breakouts and hair thinning.
People usually unintentionally take the baggage of stress and attitude into their personal lives. Sometimes it can show up in the form of lashing out at others and sometimes it can just be you isolating yourself. When you’re not operating within your purpose are you really giving others your best self? Not saying that you can’t have a relationship before you reach you peek goal in life, but I am saying there is a huge difference between a person who is settling for life and a person adamant about living the life meant for them. Most people link their confidence to their jobs (although we probably shouldn’t). Being unemployed can make you feel embarrassed and like a failure. Having a job is an improvement, because at least you are making money, but it’s not a cure all. The wrong job can have you feeling untalented, unmotivated and insecure which can manifest in your personal life. You really don’t want to be going off on people who care about you for things out of their control. Shoot, I have even had people go off on me (a stranger) for next to nothing because they are so miserable at their job; which isn’t a good look cause you never know who you’re talking to (watch undercover bosses).
In the end I understand why some people feel obligated to stay tied to a job that they hate. When you have responsibilities like a family, bills or just old values that staying loyal to a job will create a lifetime of job security, doing what you love to do seems unimportant. My suggestion is to still find what your purpose is and to go after it. It might not be to become an entrepreneur like me, it’s okay if it’s as simple as working for a better company. No matter what career path you take there will always be tough days. Even as I am on my journey as a rising writer/entrepreneur their have been some stressful and long days. The difference between having a rough day doing what you’re meant to do and working a job that you hate is the fulfillment you get knowing that you are living and not just existing. So find a way to get to your purpose and it’s okay if like me, it means temporarily working at a place you dislike. Just remember to not become complacent and to get YOUR very best out of life.